Continuing with our Fierce & Fearless Challenge.
Nicole had been in an emotionally abusive relationship for years. When she left, she had to start the process of rebuilding her entire life. Most days, she felt fragile as glass and feared she’d been permanently broken.
A supportive friend encouraged Nicole to see herself differently. “You’re not damaged or broken. You’re fierce and fearless. It takes a warrior to live through what you did and survive. You’re stronger than you’re giving yourself credit for.”
It doesn’t matter whether it was a bad day, a horrific marriage, or the loss of a loved one, we all survive circumstances that leave us feeling anything but strong. It’s easy to feel weak, like you have hide who you are.
But with time and patience, you can reclaim your fierceness and own every part of your story….
Lean into Your Values
The first step to becoming fierce is to define your values. Whether you realize it or not, your values drive every decision you make.
If you look back at the moments in your life that you most regret, chances are you’ll see that you stepped on your values in some way. Maybe you said “yes” to a relationship, job, or commitment that wasn’t a good fit.
But defining your values can feel tricky. There are hundreds of different values and you want the ones you choose to be true to you.
Focus on What You Want
What you focus on often expands. This is great when you’re focused on values that matter to you and inspire you to be your best self.
But it’s easy to get into the habit of focusing on the negative. The more you say things like, “I don’t have enough time” or “I can never afford anything nice” or “I’m not fierce”, the more these things become your truth. You live them out even if you don’t want to.
Have an Opinion
When someone else asks you where you want to go to eat or what to do with an empty Friday night, you don’t pipe up. You say something like, “I don’t care. Whatever you want to do is fine by me.”
Maybe you think this makes you easygoing or laid back. But often, the root behind a lack of opinion has more to do with not valuing yourself. You matter, too. Your thoughts and feelings matter and your opinions count.
Own Who You Are
Be proud of who you are and what you stand for. If you’re an artist that sees the possibility in everything, honor that. If you’re the writer who spins stories to entertain yourself or others, honor that. If you’re the photographer that feels compelled to capture all of the special moments of your day, honor that.
Don’t shrink back, afraid to shine for fear someone else will be dimmed by your shadow. There’s more than enough light to go around!
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