The words prepared, and ADHD are rarely in the same sentence, especially with impulsivity along for the ride, can you really be prepared?
Well, it depends on where you want to be prepared.
Do you want to be prepared for the unknown?
Do you want to be prepared for things that may happen in public?
Do you want to be prepared for school or university?
Do you want to be prepared for what the teacher may say to you when you head to the school after yet another phone call?
Although we can’t be 100% prepared for these outcomes as they happen unexpectantly, we can definitely be prepared for how we react to these unexpected events.
I have provided you with some tips below on how we can prepare in different scenarios:
Preparing your ADHD child for school, returning to school or starting a new school.
There can be a lot of preparation with our children with ADHD and school. The key here is to talk to them about what to expect and if you can visit the new school or new teacher before they start then that will help immensely. The best time to do this is the week before school goes back for the new year. Usually the teachers are already in the classroom preparing and they may agree to you coming to have a quick visit, so your child can familiarise themselves with the teacher and classroom.
I have a great webinar on this and will be running a live webinar on getting back to school in January, you can register here: http://eepurl.com/dhwydD
Preparing to go to an event or outing.
Heading to a completely new place can pose its challenges with anyone with ADHD. It is the unknown and unexpected. There could be anxiety that kicks in around these things and can pose a lot of challenges.
To help with this, you can Google the places you are going to in order to get a feel for what to expect when you get there. With children, you can talk to them about what to expect and what they can do if they feel overwhelmed. Explain to them what they options are. You may even need to talk to them to help them identify what their body feels like when they are feeling overwhelmed. This is the first step to them being able to work out how to deal with overwhelm.
In addition, to this, you can prepare yourself and how you will react to various scenarios. Act out these scenarios in your head and step through the process you will need to get through it.
No matter what the scenario, the biggest thing with being prepared is preparing yourself around how you will react to things. This is in our full control.
We are the only one that can control us! We can prepare ourselves to respond to outcomes that are congruent to our values and beliefs. Even if someone says something that really rubs you up the wrong way, you can choose how you react to that. Even when we go out and our children are struggling in that environment, you can prepare yourself. You know your child the best and you know that there is a chance that your child may escalate or meltdown. Run through that scenario in your head and how you are going to react to it and be prepared. If it doesn’t happen then great, but if it does you can be prepared.
There are many ways we can be prepared for most things in life, whether it is hard or easy preparation, it can be done.
Why not stop now and think about how you can prepare for something and how you will respond to it.
The old scout motto of “Be Prepared” is a handy thing to remember!
Paula is an ADHD coach, parent advocate and author who is passionate about helping families affected by ADHD and changing society’s opinion on ADHD. Paula is available for speaking events also.
If you want more information on how to work with your ADHD child feel free to contact Paula at firstname.lastname@example.org